tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7655995579826454308.post3338760133233290215..comments2024-02-06T03:52:33.571-05:00Comments on A Writer's Naughty Thoughts: Frisky Friday - BDSM "Topping from the Bottom"Kathryn R. Blakehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15772415563451755090noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7655995579826454308.post-23909915847755544252012-09-08T23:00:13.902-04:002012-09-08T23:00:13.902-04:00Rob, thanks for commenting. In D/s Topping from t...Rob, thanks for commenting. In D/s Topping from the Bottom is really frowned upon by most lifestylers. I wrote the article in reaction to Verity Ant's piece and her frank opinion on the behavior. I can't say I disagree with her, but my opinion is far less intolerant.<br /><br />From what I've seen, Takeninhand is a DD (Domestic Discipline) site. In DD the husband is the HOH (Head of Household) and he rules the roost. Their wives are not submissives and yet they are expected to obey. For them, Topping from the Bottom would equate to a show of disrespect, which is a punishable offense in DD.<br /><br />Some DD couples do venture into BDSM and D/s, but they see it more as an exception rather than the rule. My problem stems from BDSM having a stated attitude of laissez faire (let each to his own be) and yet showing little to no tolerance for couples who enjoy having the submissive act out or display bratty behavior. I guess it's a matter of perspective. If I were a Dom (or a Domme) I probably wouldn't tolerate bratty behavior, but a display of it wouldn't mean the end of our relationship. Not if I cared at all for my submissive. Some Doms feel very differently about that.<br /><br />Thanks again for the drop-by. It's an interesting discussion with a variety of opinions.Kathryn R. Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15772415563451755090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7655995579826454308.post-34545718897253606672012-09-08T10:12:28.902-04:002012-09-08T10:12:28.902-04:00Very interesting piece. From my reading of the tak...Very interesting piece. From my reading of the takeninhand.com site they frown on those who call subs on their behavior when they're topping from the bottom. Then again they claim the women on their site don't claim to be subs…while there's post after post gushing about men being in control. Huh?<br /><br />RobAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7655995579826454308.post-78777773264556318852012-04-08T11:44:41.543-04:002012-04-08T11:44:41.543-04:00Very interesting and thank you for the resources.Very interesting and thank you for the resources.D.C.http://www.dc.mcmillen.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7655995579826454308.post-16786174660451809242012-04-06T11:27:33.140-04:002012-04-06T11:27:33.140-04:00Thank you so much for linking to Painful Ecstasy. ...Thank you so much for linking to Painful Ecstasy. Yes, it's a thorny issue and a contentious one. For me (and maybe only me), topping from the bottom is so forbidden that it would break the bond I have with my Dom. We don't respect subs who do this and don't understand Doms who allow it to happen. That's our perspective and people who are more egalitarian than we are would certainly differ. It wouldn't be the first time! :) A fine article. Good luck with your manuscript.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com